What I learned from 100 girls rejecting me
Written By: Corey Thompson
Disclamer: In all fairness, I most likely haven’t been rejected by 100 females as can you really count 1–2 tinder messages back in fourth before the end of a conversation a rejection/ Going to a bar and saying hi before she says I have a boyfriend also? Rejection is fluid.
Rejection Stats [I don’t keep track, but I know some guys/girls want to know]
Cold Approach: 10–20[I saw she was reading a book I liked… her shoes…outfit..nails…something stood out and I had my hairs stand up saying you have to go talk to her! 15+ [in a bar, not my preferred technique]
Tinder/bumble/hinge: 100+ [I no longer use dating apps I find them to be futile compared to real life]
Twitter Dm: 0 [Message me if I forgot]
Instagram Dm: 4 [Instagram was really successful for me, but I still think it’s just a cheap way to message as many hot girls in your area which wasn’t my goal ever]
Facebook messenger: 4[Also successful but same issues as Instagram]
Intro
“The world is full of lonely people afraid to make the first move”- The Green Book.
I am a helpless romantic…. I mean hopeless! I have been rejected by 100 females and I am grateful for every single one. What I learned over the past few years pursuing my love life was that I got closer to figuring out what I want. I am the last guy you should listen to for dating advice like Michael Jordan is the last person you should listen to on basketball I mean he missed 26 game winners…. what a chump.
Looks
I am what I would call an average guy in the looks department. Average sense of style, Mild acne, 5'11, slightly underweight, Average haircut [ Although when I was bald I had a lot of luck with females… I don’t kink shame!]. What all these rejections taught me was there wasn’t anything different I could’ve done or said to get the girl she had a preconceived notion of me before she swiped, or I messaged her, or I cold approached that wasn’t going to change.
The success [I used real names don’t kill me]
First, there was Abbey… she asked me what book I was reading we flirted and I didn’t make a move five hours later well walking back home to state street I crossed the street and she was there we got to talking and we were both from Pa…. One thing led to another and we got coffee… on our coffee date the place we were ins fire alarm actually went off and we sat outside talking for another 30 minutes [ I didn’t text her after cause I had a lot on my plate but it was a great date/conversation I assume she thought the same thing cause she ended up sending me an exam cheat sheet a few months later]
Next, there was Aram she had been in my history class and had looked at me a few times, but I thought nothing of it but then I saw her in the finance club and asked her to grab a cup of coffee. We ended up meeting she was from Iran and I found the language barrier too much to pursue. [ Great date though and I texted her after why I didn’t think it would work out.]
These are just two examples of dates that I did go on that were successful and pleasant, but I also had dates with girl’s way out of my looks department league and what I found out was looks will get you a lot of looks…. But once on the date the attraction can fade quickly. Once you ask aspirations and start asking who they are you start boiling down things you like and dislike. I think the idea this girl lives a crazy lifestyle prevents many guys from approaching but I assure you she eats ice cream and watches Netflix just as much as you[Actually way more in my case] She is equally concerned her life is falling apart and she’s even more concerned she picked the wrong major. Also, across all my rejections not once did I get a drink thrown in my face or a rude remark almost always the interaction was pleasant.
“It’s better to regret something you have done than to regret something you haven’t done” — Somebody on Reddit/Apparently some band named the Butthole surfers
Conclusion
I’m going to challenge any wo/man who is reading this to ask out someone there interested in. I think we live in a generation of paralysis analysis and forget to give things a chance before analyzing them. Also, remember one date and rejection doesn’t mean anything they still barely know who you are! I’m only 23 and I don’t have my life fully together and that’s the point neither does she. Michael Jordan didn’t become the greatest cause he didn’t take the shot he became the greatest cause he wasn’t scared of missing the 9000 shots he missed across his career. Start taking a risk and you’ll never know what you will learn about yourself along the way! Good luck!
